Single Parent Do's & don'ts

 

Effective Tips For Single Parenting 

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Single parenting is one of the most common final  result of a failed marriage. For most of the people, it might seem simple to start a new life and raise their kids after their  marriage  failed to survive . However, for some it’s difficult to achieve  single parenting  because of so many causes . These would include their different personalities, upbringing of their respective families, and also of their ways in managing stress brought by the failure of the marriage.

Although  now a days It is a new fashion  to raise  kids without going to marriage process  and become single parent and raise some kids with pride.

Although separation can potentially influence people to raise their children and want more things in their lives, this should not be justification enough to just let go of the chance of living a better life. If you feel that separation and the idea of becoming a single parent inhibit your process from moving forward, it is now time to explore ways to overcome your fears and pave the way for good successful single parenting

Focusing on the basics

Being a good parent is instinctive to all parents. However, this innate concern for their kids and raising them well may be affected by the events that have occurred in their lives. Their experiences also hinder them to focus on the needs of their children since they cannot help themselves to overcome their problems in life.   

Although painful experiences such as separation greatly affect good parenting, there are always ways to overcome these problems and move on. The first thing that you can do is let the past go. Experts say that the first step to be an effective single parent is to deal with depression caused by separation. By learning to let go of the past, you can accept that there are things that are beyond your control. Once you have accepted this, you will be able to forgive yourself and prepare yourself in becoming a single parent.

Next best thing to do is to try to set your own pace. Although it is sometimes good for others to have fast recovery to be able to forget their problems, this is not always healthy says experts because it is only a “band-aid” solution. Many people who face the reality of becoming single parents try so hard to move on by drowning themselves in work. This may work but not for long term goals. Eventually, the person who tries so hard to face the challenges of single parenting becomes so tired and will lead to nervous breakdown. To be an effective single parent, it is best if you set your own pace so you won’t get tired. This will also be beneficial for you because you can rest whenever you want to since nobody is breathing down your neck to do things you are not ready to do.

Lastly, the best way to be successful in single parenting is to always think one step ahead and be positive. Since you will raise the child on your own, it would be best to ahead so you will be able to accomplish goals ahead of time. By doing this, you will also have more opportunities to do things properly.

Getting  Ready For Single Parenting

So you’ve gotten pregnant and you have decided to raise your child on your own or you have recently gotten divorced and you want your child to come live with you. These are admirable things to do because you are assuming responsibility for the child and that’s good… but it is also a tough situation to be in. This is especially true if your partner is not going to be supporting your child or be there at least a few days a month to assume his or her responsibility.

No doubt, single parenting is tough. It is hard to raise a child as it is without having to do it on your own but single parenting is a reality that we all have to deal with and make the best of. For those who have recently found themselves in the single parenting situation, here are a few things that you must get ready for. This is not meant to scare you off your responsibility or to make you feel upset or depressed; it is meant to make you understand what you are going into so that you will be ready for the challenges ahead.

1. Financial Budget constraints

This is perhaps what most single parents are having problems with. Remember that you do not only have to take care of yourself. You have another person to feed and raising children can be pretty expensive. Babies will require milk and special foods and equipment. When they are toddlers, they will need to attend play school and have books that will start off their learning. And if you are basically raising your child alone without any support from your parents or from anyone, you will probably also need babysitters while you which can cost a fortune when you rack all the amounts. Financially, raising a child can be a killer and it is not going to be easy as they grow up.

2. Time Capsule

As mentioned before, if you do not have people who can take care of them while you are at work, this can be a problem. You will need to balance your time or check your schedule and find out how you can work around your baby’s needs. Some mothers stop work altogether to take care of their babies during their first few months but others who cannot afford to lose their job leave them with babysitters. Time can be a problem especially with moms who are working two to three jobs just to make both ends meet.

3. Who counts The father or the mother 

As your child grows, they will also need the influence of another gender. They need a mother or a father figure that they can look up to. If you live with your parents or live with roommates of the opposite sex, this will not be a problem but what if you are living alone? One thing to do is to make it a point to always bring your child in contact with other people. Let them socialize with children and adults.

Surviving single parenting 

After separation, the couple concerned is not the only ones that are affected. Aside from family and friends, the persons who will be most affected would be the children. Experts say that kids—regardless of their ages—could be greatly affected by any form separation. These effects would depend on attitude of the child towards life. But, the success in this lies mainly on how parents help the child deal with the mixed emotions and feeling of insecurity though effective single parenting. 

In order to be an effective single parent, one must be more attentive and supportive of the young ones. A parent pay more attention to children and being more patient on them.  Aside from the ones mentioned, single parenting could be more smooth-sailing :